Regardless of gender, we all contain both masculine and feminine energy — and your leading energy reflects your inner nature and values.
Tony Robbins
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase opposites attract. Well this phrase is a simple way of explaining the Law of Polarity. What opposites attract really means is that two people with opposing leading energies will in fact have the most attraction!
It may surprise you that your leading energy is not defined by or based on your gender. There are plenty of women with leading masculine energy and plenty of men with leading feminine energy. Neither energy is better than the other. They are equal, sacred energies.
Understanding your leading energy and learning how to honor it can transform your life because you will become a magnet for the energy that best aligns with your own.
You can not only nurture certain energies within yourself, but also use the law of attraction to draw other energies to you – like a magnet.
Tony Robbins
When we have an understanding of our leading energy we can best understand our deepest needs and what will truly fulfill us within our relationships and our life. This will ultimately guide us towards a life of alignment and happiness.
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone you truly adore, you share commonality, you trust them and they are wonderful but the spark just isn’t there? Have you ever had a good paying job, you went to school for, you thought you always wanted but the demands, the rigid structure and the fast pace feels like a weight for your free soul?
Chances are: that person had a similar sexual polarity to your own and that job demanded that you wear a masculine mask that caused you to repress your leading feminine energy.
Let me explain why this happens.
Relationships & The Law of polarity
Sexual attraction and intimate connection will thrive and maximize in a relationship where there is the strongest polarity between the two partners: Masculine and Feminine. Sexual attraction will fade away and will be the weakest in a relationship where both partners are: Masculine and Masculine or Feminine and Feminine.
To put it simply: same energies will repel in romantic relationships.
A few examples of this:
- Two leading masculine energies in a relationship both want to give and neither want to receive and they both want to lead and compete to initiate.
- Two leading feminine energies in a relationship both want to receive and neither gives and neither will lead or take initiative.
Aim for balance
That being said, the most harmony can be found in two partners who are well balanced with both of their energies and willing to dance and bend between the two. Whilst still have opposing leading energies.
If you are in a relationship or looking to find a relationship, you can work with the Law of Polarity to attract the right partner. However, you first must discover your leading energy. Secondly, you must learn how to step into it.
It is safe to say that declaring your leading energy at the start of a relationship would be helpful to discuss and determine desires, needs, ways of functioning and so forth.
Disclaimer*
Please do your best to not suppress your natural leading energy. This misalignment will hurt your true self in the end and cause more misalignment in your life.
The key that we are learning here is to honor your leading energy. So that you are able to be aligned, to attract what you desire and to ultimately find fulfillment.
Leading energy with life goals & career
The same polarity or duality exist within work and life goals. If you are in a career or performing a role that does not align with your leading energy — you may feel forced, repressed, frustrated or unfulfilled.
A leading feminine energy will align and do best in free flowing work. Where they can practice creativity, move at a slower pace, be able to enjoy the stillness and the feelings of a project, reflect and possibly, nurture in some way. Whereas a leading masculine energy will naturally desire more structure, a faster-pace, analytical thinking, able to practice dominance and power and possibly, compete in someway.
Of course, these categories are not limited to whatever your leading energy is and it is very healthy to have a beautiful mixture of both energies! Yin & Yang and a greater or lesser version of each (more about this later).
Simply put, our leading energy will thrive in and lean more to one polarity but there is no limitation to either side.
Can you see how taking into account your leading energy can help you find the right romantic partner and career for you?
Leading Feminine Energy
- Open, flowing, free.
- Driven by emotions and intimate relationships.
- Focused on radiance and beauty.
- Based on filling up with love, energy and attention.
- Opening to love and giving love.
- Desire to be noticed and understood.
- Sensual and sometimes nurturing.
- Oftentimes, holds onto things and has a hard time letting go.
- Communicates with emotion and uses mood and tones.
-Tony Robbins Polarity Chart
Leading Masculine Energy
- Strong physical presence.
- Centered & rigid.
- Driven by direction.
- Focuses on one task at hand.
- Solution orientated.
- Seeks to release from burdens and constraints.
- Thrives when challenged and loves competition.
- Desires to be appreciated.
- Oftentimes, let’s go too easily and leaves too soon.
- Communicates with words and uses less emotion.
-Tony Robbins Polarity Chart
Take the quiz to find out what your leading energy is
Your result may surprise you.
I am genuinely curious to know what your leading energy is so please share with me in the comments below AND I’ll share mine with you!
With love always,
Adriona Gaia
Absolutely love the article this week. I’m feminine energy. Loved the quiz included,it was very informative 👍 👌. And who does not want to learn more about themselves????? Awesome thank you for creating this blog . Sending warm wishes to the tribe. Remember all to share ,it could change the life of one person out there.
Thank you for sharing! I love that. I can absolutely see how your energy is led by the feminine. We all appreciate you charing love and warm with the Tribe family!
Absolutely beautiful article. Adriona is such a magical gift and her understanding and appreciation for learning and sharing is what separates her from all the rest. Such an eye opening article and I learned so much. I always do when with her articles. Thank you for putting all the time and effort you do into what you do.
This is such an introspective and thoughtful read.
Wow so much gratitude for you Zac. Thank you for sharing your thoughtful words and insights about the article. We are all so blessed to have you as part of our Tribe Community. It is my pleasure to guide and serve. I know you will continue to take so much from future articles. Blessings to you sweet soul!
“Two leading masculine energies in a relationship both want to give and neither want to receive and they both want to lead and compete to initiate.
Two leading feminine energies in a relationship both want to receive and neither gives and neither will lead or take initiative.“
These ideas are amazing and the general overview makes total sense. The flow and balance works divinely in harmony / balance. Each definition would hold a percentage of the masculine or feminine energy. You would need every exact trait and how much percentage your output is… This would “determine” the final answer.
I hold a lot of both qualities so it would be hard to say without exact definition. At this point you have made a belief, which falls into “set beliefs”. These can hold us back by “definitions”. We are constantly changing so this is another perception of outcome.
Male and female are used by “the system” to define us into cattle. Sovereign citizens are feminine or masculine to define us human avatars. The male/female are used for “animals” or “cattle”.
In the perspectives of these realities it’s good to use feminine or masculine, to pull you out of the systems, timelines, and wordplay. I do believe on earth we have these features, but defining anything causes separation of what could be…. What if in theory there are multiple lovers or a single person devoted to full understanding and “enlightenment” both avatar and spiritual roles and encompasses them truly. Will this cause attraction of another that is within it full balance to create harmony?
Love all your words… stay blissful!
Joshua, thank you so much for sharing such stimulating and thought provoking insight. Truly encompassing love and balance would absolutely create harmonic relationships. What I love about the way masculine and feminine energies show up in our world today is that they do so so innately and in a primal sense.. Truly fascinating to me. As always sending love and light!